The Trauma of Divorce: What It Really Does to Your Mind and Body

February 2
18 mins

Episode Description

Divorce isn’t just emotionally painful — it can be deeply traumatic.

In this episode, we’re talking about the real trauma that comes with divorce and why so many women feel stuck, triggered, exhausted, or like they “should be further along by now.”

If you’ve ever wondered:

  • Why am I still so reactive?

  • Why does one text from my ex send me into a spiral?

  • Why does healing feel so slow and messy?

This conversation is for you.

We break down how divorce impacts your nervous system, why betrayal and high-conflict co-parenting can keep wounds open, and how losing your marriage can create an identity rupture that no one prepares you for. We also talk about the secondary trauma women experience — judgment, shame, and pressure to “move on” before their body feels safe.

This episode isn’t about pushing through or pretending you’re fine. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening in your body and brain — and why healing requires more than willpower.

Inside this episode, we cover:

  • How divorce dysregulates the nervous system

  • Why betrayal trauma cuts so deep

  • The identity loss no one warns you about

  • Why high-conflict co-parenting can feel re-traumatizing

  • How shame and isolation slow healing

If this conversation resonates, this is exactly why we created The Next Chapter — our membership for divorced moms who want real tools, support, and relief.

Inside The Next Chapter, you’ll find trauma-informed workshops that help you:

  • Regulate your nervous system during triggers

  • Release stored emotional trauma

  • Understand why you react the way you do

  • Heal without spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity

  • Feel grounded and emotionally safe again

You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through healing. You don’t have to do this alone.

👉 Join The Next Chapter today and access our trauma workshops, live support, replays, and a community of women who get it: https://www.samandleah.com/services

💙 Your healing matters. Your nervous system matters. And support changes everything.



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