In this deeply honest episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton talk about the quiet disorientation that can surface in your 30s — especially when life doesn’t look the way you thought it would.

They open with a vulnerable admission: you can have the life you once prayed for… and still feel unsettled inside it.

Lauren shares how her 30s revealed something unexpected — it wasn’t that she needed a better plan. She needed a different version of herself. Together, they explore how what feels like breakdown is often actually recalibration.

This episode is for the woman who has checked the boxes, carried responsibility well, made thoughtful decisions… and still feels like something doesn’t quite fit.

You are not failing. You are becoming.

IN THIS EPISODE, THEY DISCUSS:

The Disorientation No One Prepared You For | “This isn’t a breakdown. It’s a recalibration.” 

Jason and Lauren unpack the “picket fence” script many of us subconsciously follow — the belief that if we do X, life will look like Y. What happens when you do the right things… and it still doesn’t feel the way you expected?

They talk about why this tension often surfaces in your 30s — when decisions carry weight, comparison gets louder, and responsibility leaves less room for fantasy.

The Three Griefs Nobody Names | “Sometimes the pain isn’t your life… it’s the funeral of the life you expected.”

Lauren gives language to three quiet griefs many women carry:

• The grief of the timeline — the life you thought would have happened by now
• The grief of identity — when the version of you that worked in your 20s doesn’t work anymore
• The grief of outcomes — when you did the “right things” and life still got hard

Together, they gently ask the question many women haven’t stopped long enough to consider: What are you grieving that you’ve been calling “just stress”?

This conversation is tender, grounding, and full of hope. Because sometimes what feels like disorientation isn’t failure — it’s reorientation. And letting go of the dream life might be the very thing that makes room for a truer one.

If this episode resonates, share it with a friend who’s navigating her own season of becoming.

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