#147 We’re Both Grieving — But Not the Same Way: How Couples Navigate Grief Together After Betrayal

February 19
16 mins

Episode Description

Grief is one of the most misunderstood parts of betrayal recovery — especially for couples who are choosing to stay.

In this episode, Hali Roderick explores how grief shows up differently for betrayed partners and betraying partners, why couples often feel out of sync in the healing process, and how the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) helps couples navigate grief in the post-traumatic growth phase.

You’ll learn why “parallel grief” is normal, how grief becomes a relational stressor, and what healthy shared grieving can actually look like after infidelity and betrayal trauma.

This episode offers practical conversation prompts, trauma-sensitive insight, and hope for couples learning how to stay human together in the aftermath of betrayal.

Listen to my other episodes on grief that I mention in the episode:

#146 Grief After Betrayal: What Men Lose—and Why It Matters for Healing

#21 The Grief Nobody Talks About After Betrayal (Coming 2/23/26)

#22 Part 1: The Early Grief Phases You Didn't Expect After Betrayal (Coming 3/2/26)

#23 Part 2: From Grief to Growth Part 2 (Coming 3/9/26)


Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing

If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.

Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:


Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. 

The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. 


Free Resources & Downloads

Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.

👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal

👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal

Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal

If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.

This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system.

👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!


Listen to My Other Podcast

If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.

This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal


Join My Newsletter

Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.

👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly


Connect With Me Between Episodes

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👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing

👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick

👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

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