Betrayal doesn’t just hurt—it changes how you attach, trust, and feel safe.

Dr. Laney Knowlton (LMFT-S, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, CCPS, CST, CCRDS-S, RAE) joins Amie and Alana and explains how betrayal trauma impacts attachment styles, why disorganized attachment is so common after infidelity, and how healing can happen even if your relationship doesn’t survive.

If you’ve ever wondered “Am I broken forever?”—this episode is for you.

Together, we unpack:

• Why betrayal often creates disorganized attachment

• How attachment styles shift after trauma

• The difference between innocent trust and earned trust

• Why healing is possible—even if your partner never changes

• How recovery can lead to deeper connection, confidence, and joy

Connect with Dr. Knowlton by visiting her website, checking out her worksheets, or reading her book, Healing From Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors

 Chapters

• 00:54 Introducing Dr. Laney Knowlton

• 04:07 Understanding Attachment Styles

• 09:59 Impact of Betrayal on Attachment

• 14:06 Navigating Betrayal and Recovery

• 17:06 Challenges in Seeking Support

• 22:15 Understanding Normal Responses to Trauma

• 24:46 Stages of Recovery

• 25:08 The Role of Healthy Sexuality

• 37:58 The Path to Self-Connection and Joy

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