Resentment Part 3: What Drives Resentment in the Partner Who Betrayed?

February 10
31 mins

Episode Description

Resentment doesn’t always look like anger. In addiction recovery and betrayal healing, it often shows up quietly—through defensiveness, withdrawal, or feeling controlled.

In Part 3 of our Resentment series, we explore:

  • Why sharing resentment too early can emotionally burden your partner

  • How resentment forms underneath shame, fear, and loss of control

  • The role of emotional containment in creating real safety

  • Why empathy without boundaries is harmful

  • How deeper emotional work reduces defensiveness and prevents relapse

Chapters

  • 00:24 Understanding Resentment in Recovery

  • 02:05 Timing and Responsibility in Sharing Resentment

  • 04:13 Containment and Emotional Regulation

  • 06:14 Common Triggers of Resentment

  • 06:54 Parts Work and Internal Conflicts

  • 11:25 Empathy, Boundaries, and Emotional Maturity

  • 22:15 Grieving and Letting Go of the Past

  • 27:13 Benefits of Deep Emotional Work

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