Episode Description
Healing after betrayal can feel confusing — especially when your partner is “doing everything right,” yet something still feels off.
In this episode, Amie and Alana explore unspoken resentment in betrayal recovery: how resentment can exist without awareness, why it often gets denied, and how betrayed partners sense it before it’s ever named.
We discuss:
Why resentment doesn’t have to be felt to be acted out
How shame and “good guy” identity keep resentment hidden
Why partners should trust their body instead of dismissing it
The difference between awareness and weaponizing emotions
This is part 1 of a four-part series focused on understanding resentment without excusing harm — and without asking betrayed partners to carry what isn’t theirs.
Chapters
01:55 Categories of Resentment
05:46 Importance of Awareness
08:02 Deeper Layers of Resentment
10:58 Resentment as a Protector
13:02 Managing Resentment in Relationships
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