After betrayal, safety feels impossible—especially when your partner is the one who broke it. In this episode, Alana Gordon is joined by betrayal trauma coach, Laura Fisher, to explore a powerful reframe: what if safety doesn’t start with your partner at all?

Together, they unpack:

• Why betrayal trauma lives in the body, not just the mind

• How your nervous system tried to protect you long before discovery

• Why knowing “everything” doesn’t actually create safety

• How internal safety restores boundaries, trust, and decision-making

• Practical ways to begin feeling safer inside yourself—today

Past episode with Laura: Finding Freedom in Boundaries 

Attend our Courage to Thrive intensive and meet Laura! - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful. 

Chapters

• 04:08 Understanding Trauma Responses

• 08:45 The Role of the Body in Healing

• 14:26 Defining Safety 

• 21:01 Voice and Choice in Healing

• 27:00 Boundaries, Trust, Decisions

• 36:39 Rewiring the Nervous System After Betrayal

• 44:40 Practical Steps to Create Internal Safety

• 52:03 The Power of Self-Talk

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• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

•  ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing.

  Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

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More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.