Limerence, obsessive dating thoughts, and why you can't stop checking your phone? Matchmaker Maria sits down with journalist and author Amanda McCracken, whose writing on relationships has been published in the New York Times, Guardian, and Vogue, to break down the psychology of intense romantic infatuation. Amanda shares how she dated over 100 men, struggled with "anchormen" from her past, and realized she was addicted to longing, not love. They unpack dopamine hits from texting, why intermittent responses keep you hooked, and how purity culture and hookup culture can wire you for obsession. Plus, what to do when your mood depends on a text back, why "butterflies" can be anxiety, and the exact mindset shift that helps you stop chasing unavailable people. If you've ever reread texts, stalked Instagram, or felt addicted to someone after 4 dates, this episode is your wake-up call.

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