If submission has ever felt like a demand and triggered your PDA, this week’s episode might resonate with you! We’re answering if you’re a “bad sub” if you’re a PDAer, how to navigate explaining your nervous system to a partner, and why kink is healing. We explore a few ways people can heal from trauma and feel empowered by kink. Join us!

BTW: This is part 3 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as we look forward to an event later this month called THRIVE; it’s a virtual BDSM and mental health conference. THRIVE is from May 29 - 31st, all online, and it’s by donation - your donation towards your ticket ends up going right to the volunteer staff and presenters!

On this week’s Upping the Ante, our Patreon bonus content is focused on CPTSD, “disappearing” or “dissolving” during sex, and if it makes you a bad partner if you don’t reciprocate. If you’ve ever wondered why autistic and AuDHD focus seems to be different than allistic folks’ attention- especially in the bedroom- then you’ll want to hear what we’ve got to say!

(Also, if you’re a mental health professional, this is your last week to sign up for the first ever GEMS Neurodiversity Summit - this one’s focus is Autistic + ADHD Teens. It’s on May 16th starting at 10am Pacific and it’s going to be SO fun! We’re hoping to build a tightknit community and to continue hosting GEMS Summits in the future.)

• Find us at GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens this week: www.neuropebble.com/gems-summit 
• GEMS Neurodiversity Community for therapists on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/924737776755804 
• Join us at THRIVE later this month: https://thrivevirtualcon.com/
• Therapists can take a sneak peek at our June 17th, 2026, event here: https://www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast

Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)