Episode Description
In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Becca to unpack how reconnecting with someone from her past quickly escalated into coercive control, domestic violence, and physical abuse—and ultimately led to the devastating discovery of grooming and sexual assault against her child.
Becca walks us through the timeline in clear, unflinching detail: intense love-bombing and a rushed marriage, early red flags during pregnancy, isolation and alcohol-fueled conflict during COVID, and the shift from gaslighting to physical violence. Everything changes when her child discloses the abuse—forcing Becca to make urgent decisions to protect her children and involve law enforcement.
From there, we go inside the criminal justice process, breaking down what survivors rarely hear explained: investigation barriers like hospital privacy laws and unstable housing, how missed leads can stall cases, and how a single Facebook message helped police locate the suspect. Becca explains the long months of court delays, mental health evaluations, a public defender change, and what a tier three sex offender designation and no-contact orders mean for long-term safety.
Beyond the courtroom, this conversation focuses on healing and prevention—how to recognize coercive control early, why abuse often escalates during pregnancy, and what grooming can look like when it hides behind “friendship.” Becca also shares why she’s working to terminate parental rights, how therapy is helping her children regain confidence, and the truth every survivor needs to hear:
It’s not your fault.
If any part of this story mirrors your own, you are not alone.
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1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe